This is bound to get quite a few people up in arms, but I ask that you read it in the fullest before making statements bellow.
First I’d like to lead off with this in case someone is unclear as to the comparison. Ed Hardy was a popular and at one point in time an expensive brand of clothing. It was soon taken over by the “hipsters” of the early 2000’s and the, well for lack of a better term, douche bags we all seen around where we work and live. Tapout followed the same path, a clothing company that was designed for MMA and those types of people soon turned to represent people that had the attitude of “I wear it so I am it”. Now alas, it seems to me and a lot of vets that DV has started down this road.
I’ll be the first to say, I liked their clothing as a funny thing. Their stuff said things that I thought and/or agreed with, but wouldn’t wear it around. Not because I would be embarrassed by it but because for the added attention it would bring to me.
For example, “Does not play well with others” and “Stay back 100 meters”. It’s funny, it’s part of a lot of deployments, and yes it makes me chuckle. But not for the reasons you think. It makes me laugh because for someone wearing a “Does not play well with others” it would appear to me that you are wanting the added and unnecessary attention that it is bringing to you. Of course when you wear a shirt that says something like that people are going to do one of two things. They are either going to ask you about it forcing you to explain what it’s about (or blow them off furthering the bad attitude stereotype that veterans have, which we’ll cover in a post coming soon), or they will smirk and make quiet comments about how ridiculous and idiotic it is for someone to wear something along those lines and when finding out it’s a veteran’s shirt and clothing line it will again add to the poor stereotype that the veteran community is facing in this day and age.
It seems to me that if you really are a “dysfunctional” individual you wouldn’t want people to interact with you. But a NARCOSIST would…. you WANT people to ask about the shirt, you WANT people to inquire about your service, and you WANT to propagate the bad stereotypes that people are getting about veterans now days. You think it’s “cool” and “funny” to watch “potatoes” look at your shirt and walk away. You think it’s funny that “potatoes” can’t understand your “sense of humor” or will ever be able to “get” you. News flash bub/bubbets, if you climb down off the pedestal you’ve put yourselves up on and actually TALK and COMMUNICATE with people you’ll find you are actually NO BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE……..HOLY SHIT……did the wind just get taken out of your sails?
You are a VETERAN! Yes, you took an oath to defend this country, you volunteered to serve this GREAT nation, and yes, you ARE the 3%. But what you are not is better than a civilian that did not serve. Everyone has a calling and not everyone’s calling is to serve in the military. But putting that aside just because you did serve does not make you any better than anyone else. That’s a does or reality number one.
Dose number 2, just because you are a veteran does not mean you are “dysfunctional”. Surprise, surprise sunshine, I know momma told you that you were special but that doesn’t mean the same thing. Something that is extremely funny to me and I’ve set back and watched this the last couple of years is the number of people that wear and act the “dysfunctional” way. I’m not tooting my own horn here but merely setting an example. I fought in the invasion of Iraq in 2003 AND in the first battle of Ah Fallujah in 2004, both as an Infantry Machine gunner. My brothers and I saw a lot of stuff and experienced a lot of things. You know how many of them preach the teachings of “dysfunctional veteran”? Not very many, actually less than 5%. We all thing the clothing and facebook post are funny (mostly) but that’s as far as it goes. The reason I set this here is for my next observation. The amount of people I see wearing and boasting about being “dysfunctional” are generally people that seen or done little to no combat missions let alone tours. Before you get to butt hurt, yes, I do understand that NOT being in combat doesn’t mean you can’t “suffer” from PTSD or feel “dysfunctional”. Just hold on I’ll be clarifying my stance shortly. I say this because, in my and some of my brothers experiences, the ones that wear these shirts and talk (loudly most of the time) about DV are ones that will tell you a “war story” in a heartbeat without even being asked about it or will have a very detailed and gnarly story to share that seems more tailored to make the listener understand “why they are a dv” and less about letting someone know that they are in fact a veteran. A lot of this comes from the entitlement mentality (that I will be sharing another post all about soon) that a lot of our veterans have. New age vets seem to be taught and coached on how to get what disability ratings from the VA when the only disability they actually have is laziness to not work. So instead of becoming a productive member of society that happens to be a veteran they don on “veteran” gear, put on an act at the VA, get very defensive to anyone that indicates they aren’t buying their act, are rude and disrespectful to “potatoes”, and generally are not someone that any self-respecting human wants anything to do with.
Third dose of reality. Believe it or not, there ARE some civilians that have had it (mentally and/or physically) worse than you. Just because they never served doesn’t mean that that civilian you just were rude to doesn’t have PTSD/PTS/TBI. That “potato” that you just scoffed at or thing has no idea what you’ve “been through” does in fact know what you’ve been through 10 fold. That “civie” that you thing “wouldn’t get my humor” has a more twisted sense of humor than you ever thought, mainly because they actually think it’s funny where as you think it’s funny because DV said so…you see where I’m going with this?
You want to put veterans up on a pedestal and then act like a damned fool then wonder why/how vets have such a bad name. You, who have no actual reason for being “dysfunctional” other than being a veteran, you have just become that “douche bag” that dons on the ed hardy and tapout gear thinking it makes you look badass or like you are somebody.
I was taught both in life and the military, the actions of a man determine the character not his looks or appearance. That squared away Marine may be the biggest shit bird in the unit but he keeps is camies nice and pressed. That Marine that hasn’t used an iron in years will more than likely be the best damned Marine in the battalion. Your cloths only make you look foolish and draws attention to you, attention that you claim you don’t want.